Speedrunning the Sexual Cycle

The Post-Divorce Sexual Cycle of Women

When I was playing the field again (this time much older than the first go), I had the luxury of dating a wide variety of women which included, but was not limited to, women post-divorce. After going on countless dates and collecting quite a few new names to my kill-count, I noticed certain patterns emerge with the divorced female demographic.

Unlike in their younger years, age seemed to have very little to do with their behavior, instead it was based on how long it had been since they got divorced and how much experience they accrued thereafter.

I noticed that there was a striking similarity to the phases a woman naturally goes through as popularized by Rollo Tomassi, except their progressions through each phase was accelerated greatly. It was almost like they were speedrunning their sexual cycles from party girls to “finding a good man” in a quarter of the time.

With that said, here are my general observations:

New Found Freedom

Shortly after (or even slightly before) the ink is dry on the divorce papers, many women are hitting the circuit again with their “new found freedom”. Whether this is a cope or a genuine expression of joy post-marriage doesn't really matter. Even if they aren't truly having a fun time, you'll never know. Most women are really good at tapping into that party girl mindset they had in their early to late twenties and, you good sir, can easily take advantage of this.

These girls don't care what happened with your relationship, they are looking to make up for lost time and want a guy (at least for the night) to help assist them with this goal. These girls are much easier to sleep with and plate, but also much easier to lose contact with. They've just escaped being tied down and are craving having their “firsts” again.

This phase is a fuckboi’s dream.

Have fun and carry on.

Early Exhaustion

It takes about anywhere from a year to three years after divorce for women to burn themselves out. They had plenty of fun, but they also racked up more experience dating and, unlike in their twenties, this go around is completely different.

A lot of guys they want have long been married or are sleeping with other women (including women much younger than them). I can't tell you how many times I heard some iteration of, “oh I dated so and so for a short period of time, but we were just looking for different things”. Which is code for “I thought I had a shot, but these guys are just interested in sex”.

And why wouldn't they be?

The dynamic has flipped from when they were in their twenties and I'm pretty confident in saying that if a woman hasn't realized this yet, this is the stage where they start to understand (albeit they still have that hope in their eyes).

These women are the ones that generally “take it slow” (read: want to wait until date three to fuck) and all of a sudden are very interested in your prior relationships, your work life, if you have kids (and what your parenting schedule is if you have them), what your weekends look like, what future goals you have, etc.

Essentially, they are filtering for a “good man” to settle down with.

You can still have fun with these girls or even get into a long-term relationship with one, but they will likely put up more roadblocks as they don't want to be pumped and dumped again.

But that's not your problem.

Proceed accordingly.

The Final Evolution

This is where things get super interesting as women tend to diverge into two completely different and opposite paths.

Path A: Acceptance and Responsibility

These girls are an absolute pleasure to be around. They've taken accountability for their part in past failing relationships, put in a lot of work and are very chill.

But that's the exact same reason that they are unlikely to drop their panties on a first date.

These women understand the position they are in and have come to terms with being single. They have built a life for themselves where if the right guy comes along they'll consider getting into a relationship, but it isn't required. They don't date often, have a robust social life and a have a few solid hobbies that they have become very adept at. I had one girl DJ a set for me at her place.

If getting laid is your goal, this is not the demographic to chase. However, these women are great to be friends with and can introduce you to a entirely new social circle.

Path B: Embittered Midde-Aged Toddler

I don't typically like to write any demographic of women off entirely, but when it comes to these dregs of society I must insist to that you flee on site.

These women are what fuel ragebait TikToks.

They haven't taken accountability for shit, blame everyone else for their relationship failures, expect the world from you while simultaneously giving nothing of value in return, are miserable, project all their bullshit onto you and know deep within their hearts that they fucked up getting a divorce…

…and you get the distinct pleasure of being the most recent target of their misplaced emotional tantrums.

These are the women that will trauma dump on you over drinks and appetizers about their “abusive” ex-husband that left them a seven years ago.

I shit you not, the small handful of women I had the displeasure of going on a date with that fell into this group all lived with either a family member or a friend.

That might seems like a trivial fact until you remember Law 10: Infection (Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky).

Due to the aforementioned reasons above they likely have failed in all other aspects of their life as well resulting in a stagnant low-paying job, poor financial management and general social isolation.

In the interest of not being sent to jail for online hate speech, I won't share my opinion on what should be done with this demographic of women.

Just know they are the fucking worst.

Even if you think you can hit it for a night and bounce, I can assure you this is not the road you want to go down.

Conclusion

For a lot of guys getting back into the game after years of marriage can be overwhelming. Dating becomes new again and it takes time to calibrate.

If you are one of these guys, keep this in the back of your mind as you date. The quicker you can sort these women into one of the four archetypes the more time you'll save yourself to date other (and perhaps better) women.