Beware the Succubus

How Some Women Compensate for Poor Behavior with Sex

This post is dedicated to a good friend with whom I have had many great conversations. He introduced me to a concept that inspired this post. He knows who he is. This one is for you.

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Every legend, myth, allegory, rumor, etc. springs from some kernel of truth. If not an outright fact, convergent evidence in the human experience that makes a story at least somewhat believable or functional as a mental model. The succubus as portrayed in the Abrahamic religions is no exception.

Depending on the interpretation, the exact details of the succubus changes, but what typically remains constant is the figure of a demon that takes the form of a beautiful woman to seduce a man and in turn drains his life force. Grand stories and mythology aside, there is something valuable here to be learned that is often overlooked in this space.

Let's be honest. Most men find themselves here because of a lack of sex. While there are plenty accounts who warn men of the dangers of a girl with daddy issues and a tattoo, they are merely parroting advice they heard from another grifter; creating a vague archetype of a woman rather than a functional concept to help guide a man in his decision making.

To understand the type of woman I am talking about there are two concepts that are important to know: the weaponization of sex and brackish bitches.

The Weaponization of Sex Beyond Chores and Material Goods

Women understand the power that they hold with their sexuality and unfortunately, some women choose (either consciously or subconsciously) to weaponize sex in order to get what they want. Whether it is a night out on the town, a clean kitchen or otherwise, it is not uncommon to hear stories from men where their wives or girlfriends dangle the promise of sex infront of them like a stick and carrot to get them to accomplish some task, spend unnecessary money or get them to do something they would otherwise not do under their own volition.

What is less often talked about is the weaponization of sex as an overcompensation for many other shortcomings.

I written about the importance of being a well rounded man before. Putting all your eggs in one basket is not only a recipe for disaster, it also sets you up to be compartmentalized into a single box and unlikely to result in a fruitful long-term relationship.

Women are no different.

Some women have no qualms fucking like it's their job. Sex is hot, wild and frequent. They are submissive and meet nearly every sexual need a man can dream up. Unfortunately, that's all they have going for them.

Just like the broke, awkward and socially inept gymbro looksmaxxer that can't understand why girls aren't just jumping on his dick, these girls are often just as clueless unable to understand why they can't form healthy and lasting relationships.

“The most important thing to a guy is sex, isn't it”? She thinks.

Whether sex is the most important thing to men or not, it cannot be the only thing— and that is where these girls fail. For all intent and purposes, it is sexmaxxing.

Sex is weaponized not in a direct manner as a tit-for-tat exchange of value or as a clearly manipulative tactic (as is very common). Rather it is weaponized to obfuscate every other shortcoming.

Let's not get autistic. A girl that has some unsavory behaviors, but is a pornstar in bed is not what I am talking about. These type of girls will literally drain your fucking soul with their drama, incompetence, neediness and reckless behavior, but keep your corpse strung along until you have nothing left to offer because the pussy is just that good and the rest of them just that shit.

Patrice O'Neal, Brackish Bitches and the Catfish Story

The late great Patrice O'Neal had a term for women who were seemingly incapable of having a healthy relationship dynamic— brackish bitches.

I really do wish I could find it, but despite my best efforts (and listening to a shit-tonne of Patrice) I was unsuccessful in finding the audio clip where he gives the perfect analogy of a brackish bitch. I'll do my best to describe his bit, albeit without the great comedic inflections.

Patrice speaks of himself going fishing one day and catching a massive catfish. Proud of his catch, he takes the fish home, cleans all the mud and dirt off the catfish putting it in a large clean tank. Not long after the catfish becomes sluggish and ill. Patrice doubles down and ensures that the tank is large enough to be comfortable. He cleans the tank thoroughly ensuring the water is fresh, clean and filled with the oxygen required to allow fish to thrive.

The problem gets worse.

Patrice soon realizes that this is a fish unlike the others (he was known to have large aquariums and collect all manner of fish). This fish thrives in brackish water (slightly salty fresh water), mud and dirt. He took the fish out of its environment and nearly killed it.

Patrice equates his experience with the catfish to girls he calls brackish bitches. They are girls who grew up in chaos and instability. It doesn't mean that these girls are bad people, it is just that the environment they are accustomed to is that of chaos, turmoil, instability and friction. When taken out of that environment they cannot acclimate to a healthy and stable environment.

Like the catfish, it nearly kills them.

The Succubus Explained

Some girls, while they can be well-meaning and even kind, aren't cut out for a healthy relationship regardless of how much they want one. They haven't developed the skill set required to thrive in stability and support. They have however, learned that they can keep a man (even if temporarily) through sex. As ingrained behaviors and developing healthy coping mechanisms to trauma is incredibly difficult, they double down on their sexuality— sexmaxxing.

The problem for many men is that this can be incredibly alluring at first. It can be intoxicating to have a girl shoot far and above the competition in bed. However, all the other facets that keep a relationship healthy and strong are just not there. It becomes, in a very literal sense, draining. The stress, drama, turmoil and instability become too much to handle, regardless of how stellar the sex is. Unfortunately, as the sex is so superb, it can take a man a long time to snap out of it and realize that the ROI is just not worth it. It can take until a man is completely broken and a shell of himself before the spell is broken.

For us men, sex is incredibly important.

But it can't be the only thing that is important. Otherwise, we begin to make concessions that we wouldn't normally make. This type of woman is attracted to the type of man that will trade his boundaries and expectations for top tier sex.

Don't be that guy.

You've been warned.

Beware the succubus.