Its been a long while since I've ventured into the manosphere or whatever gay term genetic dead end nerds came up with but Heartiste was always the best reads.
Great piece. I got lost in the weeds of ham fistedly applying rollo's models in day to day relationships, and it was unproductive. Through trial and error I arrived at what you've articulated clearly in this essay, and my life and relationship are much better for it.
You cannot imagine the timing: I just came home, brooding and frustrated by my constant effort to fit my relationship into these mental models, and this post appeared on my screen.
Very interesting way of looking at things. I am myself guilty of ham fistedly applying the hypergamy/GBD model to all observations regarding women.
I am also blackpilled deeply and accepted long ago that I don’t have the looks required to satisfy hypergamy or generate genuine burning desire.
I see value in your approach. Just live in the moment. Focus on your experience. Emotionally detach from women and just ask what she can do for me right now. I guess that’s the mindset passport bros also apply.
Rollo is one of my favourite authors. You have articulated these mental models well and it is refreshing to read a quality article this day on this app with the influx of X hoes.
I think you can also include Mental Model of Medium Is The Message. But this one fits every relationship would it be romantic, professional or otherwise.
I used the three from Rollo as they are the most common that I saw. But you are correct. Any mental model that deals in the abstract (even the few I has contributed) are beat ro be sorted in good ro know as a high level and those that are practical
Its been a long while since I've ventured into the manosphere or whatever gay term genetic dead end nerds came up with but Heartiste was always the best reads.
"I love you" is an excuse to behave like a c*nt
Great piece. I got lost in the weeds of ham fistedly applying rollo's models in day to day relationships, and it was unproductive. Through trial and error I arrived at what you've articulated clearly in this essay, and my life and relationship are much better for it.
Thanks! Glad to hear you got it sorted out.
Worth a read. This person gets it.
https://open.substack.com/pub/squareman/p/men-arent-assholes-they-just-need?r=bnjy5&utm_medium=ios
"Too many men get lost in the abstract failing to see the woman right in front of them."
Banger!
Thank you, sir!
This is truly refreshing and timely.
Having read numerous books about those mental models, can you recommend any that provide a perspective shift as you mentioned?
Perhaps the best advice might ultimately be, "Put down the book and start living."
Analysis by paralysis is definitely a thing. I wrote "Get your Hands Dirty" to address just that.
Also, thanks for the kind words. I find it fulfilling to know someone has gotten value from my writing to hopefully improve their life.
You cannot imagine the timing: I just came home, brooding and frustrated by my constant effort to fit my relationship into these mental models, and this post appeared on my screen.
This is the very definition of synchronicity.
Thank you.
Serendipitous, even. I'm glad, my man.
Very interesting way of looking at things. I am myself guilty of ham fistedly applying the hypergamy/GBD model to all observations regarding women.
I am also blackpilled deeply and accepted long ago that I don’t have the looks required to satisfy hypergamy or generate genuine burning desire.
I see value in your approach. Just live in the moment. Focus on your experience. Emotionally detach from women and just ask what she can do for me right now. I guess that’s the mindset passport bros also apply.
She just uses you
Great work! The message hits home with me, sometimes the truth is there to see but I refuse to acknowledge it.
Glad to hear it.
Rollo is one of my favourite authors. You have articulated these mental models well and it is refreshing to read a quality article this day on this app with the influx of X hoes.
Much appreciated!
I think you can also include Mental Model of Medium Is The Message. But this one fits every relationship would it be romantic, professional or otherwise.
I used the three from Rollo as they are the most common that I saw. But you are correct. Any mental model that deals in the abstract (even the few I has contributed) are beat ro be sorted in good ro know as a high level and those that are practical